The Dyke Whisperer

This is how scary it is out there: Scary Shit. Those of you on either coast, please don’t discount these lunatics. Remember: Prop 8 passed in California.

This is war. People have taking our rights from us in California. We must fight back. We must not become hysterical or violent. We must fight with our dollars.

I invite you to access the Proposition 8 Donor Database. It was compiled By Richard Dalton, a computer-assisted reporting specialist, for the Associated Press. I urge you to boycott the businesses owned by those that supported Prop 8 and promote discrimination against gays and lesbians.

We’re fighting for equality and our families. Keep that in mind when you decide where to vacation, what hotel chain to patronize, and which restaurants to visit. If our enemies want to deprive us of marriage, the least we can do is deprive them of our dollars — all of our dollars.

Unfortunately, we can’t depend on GLAAD and HRC to lead us in our struggle. Obviously, the leaders of these two groups were sleeping when our enemies were plotting, amassing, and strategically leading an assault on us. We still need to support these well-meaning groups, but we need to light a fire under their collective asses and assume individual responsibility if we are to attain the equality guaranteed us under The Constitution.

Fight because it’s the right thing to do. Fight with all your passion. Fight with grace and dignity. Fight with your cash and credit cards. Fight because they’ve given us no choice.

This is a wake-up call.

You know that woman you’re in love with? You know, the one you’ve been pursuing for the last couple of months — or longer? The one that you keep dropping subtle hints to about your attraction to her and your intentions?

Stop with the subtlety already! She’s not getting it! She doesn’t think you’re interested! And, when she does finally get it, she’ll think you’re shy (how freakin’ cute!) or a complete wimp (too bad for you).

Tell her!

(Or, at least, tell her best friend.)

It is despicable to lie to and deceive a close friend. When this is done to pursue a woman both the liar (secretly) and the best friend (openly) both like, it is worse.

Any woman who would stab a friend in the back for sex is worthless.

Any woman who would stab a friend in the back for any reason is worthless.

Relationships that begin amid lies and deception tend to end amid lies and deception.

In California — a state with a large gay and lesbian population — we have been declared to be second-class citizens.

In California – a popular destination state for gays and lesbians on vacation — we have had our rights stripped from us.

There is something fundamentally, completely, and profoundly wrong with putting the rights of a minority up to a majority vote. If this were being done to almost any other minority, people would riot because of how un-American it is.

Let’s not be blind here. There’s much work to do.

It seems as if Florida and Arizona will pass bans on gay marriage. Arkansas will pass a ban on the adoption of children by gays. As of this writing, we still don’t know what’s going to happen with Proposition 8 in California.

Equality for all Americans. Don’t rest, don’t relax, don’t sleep easy — until we all have the same rights under the same flag.

This is the start, not the end.

Yeah, I was hacked. Until I figure out how to “purify” the black layout, this will do for now.

Recently, I received an e-mail message informing me of a group called 8 Against 8. Eight lesbian bloggers have joined forces to help promote awareness of California’s Prop 8, an initiative to eliminate the rights of same-sex couples in California.

This “California Marriage Protection Act” needs to be sent back to Hell, where it originated.

If you are in California, please vote “NO” on Proposition 8. If you are elsewhere, please consider helping these eight bloggers reach their goal of collecting $8,000 by October 27, 2008 to support the defeat of this repulsive piece-of-shit legislation. Visit 8against8.com. Donations of ANY size are welcome and encouraged.

Each gay person who comes out makes all gay people stronger, in both a social and political sense. As we become stronger, we will begin to be acknowledged as equals who deserve the SAME RIGHTS  and SAME BENEFITS as heterosexuals. Strength and unity will one day result in equality.

Congratulations to the lesbians of the State of California:

“… limiting the designation of marriage to a union ‘between a man and a woman’ is unconstitutional and must be stricken from the statute,” California Chief Justice Ron George said in the written opinion.

California’s Supreme Court ruled that a ban on gay marriage was unlawful, effectively leaving gay couples free to marry in a landmark ruling.

I better be invited to at least one wedding.

I feel particularly sorry for those of you faced with coming out to fundamentalist parents, regardless if they are well meaning people and regardless of the particular sect they are affiliated with. Religious zealots ARE zealots because they have relegated individual decision-making to a code of morals that is interpreted by a charismatic, power-hungry, emotionally twisted leader — who is skilled at manipulating the “word of God” to influence his/her obedient flock into not only funding his/her lavish lifestyle but applying inflexible (to others) “holy” or “moral” principles to any situation that may occur.

 [Pardon my forthcoming sarcasm.]

We all know that homosexuality is SO evil that even GOD didn’t have the stomach to mention it in His commandments to Moses. It is so heinous that Jesus didn’t even want to address it. “Love one another” — but not in THAT way, is what he meant to say.

The prospect of homosexuality is so distasteful to religious fundamentalists that some feel the need to actually engage in it privately — just so they can reaffirm their devotion to their religious principles when they are caught. Brave moral soldiers are they.

[End of sarcasm.]

Fundamentalists believe that God showers them with prosperity as long as they are devoted, tithe, occasionally handle snakes, have numerous spiritual wives, fly jets in buildings, murder innocent mothers and children, start wars based on lies, torture, rape, exploit, and intimidate — all in the name of the prophet of their choice.

Now, how do you handle this craziness? You don’t; you can’t. Your coming-out will be “proof” that your parents are immoral. “You will know them by their fruit.” They’ll hate you for embarrassing them in front of their pious peers, who are probably closet perverts, adulterers, whore-mongers, and evil assholes.

They’ll tell you to pray. They’ll want to send you to one of those despicable “de-programming” camps. By the way, if you’re ever in the need for raw sex and reckless behavior, date one of those de-programmed lesbians, if you can find one that’s not too doped up on prescription drugs and cheap bourbon to perform.

Distance is key. I suggest that you wait until you’re away from home (at college, for example) to tell them, either in person or in a letter (no e-mails, please). Tell them at the beginning of a semester. You’ll have another place to live so you won’t have to live with friends or sympathetic relatives. Be prepared to spend Christmas with other gay friends who have been abandoned by their parents.

Don’t, however, leave one prison — one cage — to enter another one, namely the prison of a romantic relationship now occurring in hyperdrive because you have been kicked out, financially cut off, or generally disowned. Coming-out is a personal process that is about YOU, not about you and your girlfriend. Coming-out is about YOUR freedom, which should NOT be abandoned for the temporary comfort of a domineering or subservient girlfriend. Be YOU first, before you attempt to be part of an “US.” If you don’t, “us” won’t last — and you might face the prospect of searching for the perceived comfort of yet another prison.