Yes, Virginia, There is a Thanksgiving
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My family lives in Virginia. I moved to Florida to go to school and now I work here. I have always gone back to Virginia for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and other holidays.
I have recently (two weeks ago) started dating a girl who is beautiful but may be crazy. I don’t know if she’s crazy or not because we haven’t known each other that long.
She seems to have a hard time making up her mind about anything. I decided to stay in Florida so that WE could have a Thanksgiving together. We planned it! I learned last night that she might go out of town to celebrate Thanksgiving with HER family, leaving me alone for a couple of days.
WTF?
Am I wrong to be pissed off?
Pissed off, right or wrong, in Tampa
Dear Tampa,
Two issues:
- You have just started dating this woman. She is not your girlfriend. There may be some family issues of which you are unaware.
- YOU decided to stay in Florida. It was your decision.
She does sound somewhat flighty to me, but you don’t know her history. If you have a reliable car, drive to Virginia for the weekend. Yes, it’s rude of her to change plans on you, but it was unwise of you to alter your traditional plans because of someone you’ve just met.
Kiss her and go to Virginia. Text or call her over your break. Arrange to have a nice dinner on Sunday (or whenever you return). Start over. Break the trend! Refuse to let Holidays be the source of stress and anger!
