Choose Your Fights
It took me YEARS to learn this: choose your fights carefully. Fighting for someone or something you WANT is one thing; fighting for someone or something you NEED is another. Fighting for someone/something you WANT is short-sighted and draining and, unfortunately, compromises our spirit and energy when we have to fight for someone/something we NEED.
I believe we need to fight for ourselves and our own best interests. We need to determine what’s best for US. To consider and refine OUR dreams. To identify and wish upon OUR stars.
I advise you not to diminish your potential and not to waste your time trying to change water into wine. Here’s a gem of wisdom for you: you can’t change anybody. I know it’s frustrating because you can see the potential someone has and know that, with a few (seemingly) minor tweaks, she would be an ideal companion for you. The problem is, the tweaks won’t be minor to her and, sadly, the potential you see is in YOUR heart and mind and not in her composition as a person. In reality, she just isn’t who you think she CAN be.
That realization sucks, by the way.
