Joint Finances
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My girlfriend and I have moved in together. She believes that we should merge our finances and have one bank account. I am hesitant. She says I don’t trust her enough. What do you say?
Laurie in Palo Alto
Dear Laurie,
I say that you should have had this discussion BEFORE moving in together. I think a compromise that still allows you both some security and autonomy is to have a separate account used to pay common expenses such as rent, utilities, Internet access, etc. Each of you could put in an equal amount of money every two weeks or month (whatever makes the most sense).
BOTH of you need to have access to this account, and both of you should monitor it regularly.
