Best Friend and Girlfriend Together
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I found out yesterday that my supposed best friend slept with my girlfriend while we were together — several times. She (my supposed best friend) says it’s no big deal because we’re not together anymore. I am bewildered and want to confront them both as soon as I stop crying. What should I say to them?
Crushed in Miami
Dear Crushed,
Don’t say a word to either one of them. Cut them out of your life entirely. A stray cat would make a much better companion than your “best friend.”
I don’t suggest confronting them. Your best bet is to distance yourself from them, heal, and choose better friends and girlfriends. That last part is much easier said than done, by the way. And, healing is going to take some time: it’s a double betrayal you’re dealing with so the pain is exponentially intense.
I’d avoid forming close connections in the near future. You’re in a vulnerable state, and it would be easy for a slick woman to further damage your trust, self-esteem, and heart.
