Politics and Partners
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My girlfriend is a strong and vocal advocate for Senator Obama; I campaigned for and wholeheartedly supported Senator Clinton. We haven’t had sex since the middle of May. We just can’t seem to get past politics. Any words of wisdom for us?
Lacey in Brooklyn
Dear Lacey,
I’m always glad to hear that lesbians are involved in politics and passionate about candidates; however, something is very wrong with your relationship if politics can and does interfere with your intimate physical interactions.
If you both are SO committed to political candidates that you are no longer having sex with one another, then you don’t belong together. If your intimacy is disrupted by politics, your relationship just isn’t that strong. If neither of you is willing to overlook these differences for the sake of your relationship, it’s best to break up and find a more compatible girlfriend.
You might also examine your own priorities. If politics dictates your personal dating/relationship pool, you need to be honest and open about this to yourself and to potential girlfriends before becoming seriously involved.
I’d try to have one last civilized, OPEN discussion with your current girlfriend to remedy these resentments and resume a healthy relationship. If that doesn’t work, it’s time to move on.
