Stressed All the Time
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I know my wife is under a lot of pressure. Her boss is a jackass, her father is sick, and her beloved ancient dog (that she raised from a puppy) passed away last weekend. Right now, she is unbearable to live with. The happy, optimistic woman I fell in love with has been replaced by an irate, miserable, aggressive roommate. If I knew this were temporary, I’d stick this out. As it is, I’m ready to pack my shit and take off. I understand she’s under stress, but NONE OF THIS IS MY FAULT! Help!
Losing Patience in Rochester
Dear Rochester.
Your wife is under a tremendous amount of stress. The horrible and debilitating effects of stress — some obvious and some hidden — can negatively transform even the most optimistic person.
I think you should be patient, but I also think you need to take care of yourself because you’re under this tremendous stress blanket too.
Your wife needs to get away – probably without you so you can both get a break — for at least a weekend. She’s getting massive stress-hits from too many sources.
If you are religious and/or spiritual, I suggest spending some time in prayer and meditation.
You both might need to seek some professional counseling as well. With your wife in survival mode, her temper is going to be firing hard and sporadically at anyone and everyone in sight.
Everyone has a limit. Your wife is obviously at hers. You may be close as well. Be proactive, try to get this under control by any means available and necessary now.
