Not Really an Orphan
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I just found out accidentally that my girlfriend of six months lied to me about her parents. She said they were both deceased when, in reality, they’re both very much alive — and living in the same city we live in!
I don’t know what to feel or do. If she could lie about her parents, what else is she lying about? Help!
Deceived in Aurora, CO
Dear Deceived,
Hold on. Maybe the parents are “dead” to her. Maybe they rejected her for being gay. Maybe she rejected them for abuse or neglect. Maybe they think she’s straight. In other words, don’t take “dead” too literally.
I suggest you let it go. Maybe she’ll reveal the details of their obviously shaky relationship to you when she’s ready, if she’s ever ready. You have only been her girlfriend for six months. YOU may think that’s long enough to establish complete emotional intimacy, but she may not. Give her some time. Besides, it really has no impact on your relationship with her at this point.
I certainly would not hold this against her, and I don’t think it’s an indication that she is being dishonest in general.
