Secret Cell Phone
Dear Dyke Whisperer, As I was about to do laundry, a cell phone dropped out of my wife’s jeans pocket. It is NOT her regular cell phone. I looked at the call history, and most calls (made and received) are to one number. I’ve been sick about this since yesterday. I put the phone back in her jeans and left the jeans on the floor. I did write down the numbers I saw. What do I do?
Wrecked in New Haven
Dear Wrecked,
There are three ways to handle this:
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When she is relaxed, ask your wife about the phone. Don’t accuse her of anything. Just tell her the truth: you were washing clothes, and it fell out of her pocket. Watch her face closely. She won’t be able to hide the guilt unless she’s a psychopath. There might be a rational explanation. For example, the phone may be related to a work project. Maybe it’s someone else’s phone.
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Call the number that appeared most frequently and focus on how the call is received. That should give you an indication of who and what this person is. If you get a “Hey, sweetie!” or other overly familiar or affectionate response, hang up. Before you confront your wife, you might want to consider taking out a cheap “erotic services” ad in your area’s free weekly newspaper. Naturally, you want to leave “her” number. Then confront your wife.
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Say or do nothing and suffer in silence. Hire a private investigator to confirm or deny your suspicions.
In any case, be prepared to withdraw funds from / close any joint accounts if you discover that your wife has been cheating on you. IF she’s cheating on you and has a secret line of communication to a secret girlfriend, they are having a serious affair.
I hope there is a rational explanation for the presence of the phone and that your worries are unfounded.
