Drunk Sarcastic Bully
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My girlfriend is great, except when she drinks too much. Then she gets mean, really mean. She never has hit me or threatened to. She just gets completely sarcastic in an evil way, to the point where I start to cry.
This doesn’t happen every time she drinks, or every other time. There are just some occasions when she drinks too much and becomes a verbal bully. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn’t remember being mean so our discussions are pointless. Any advice for me?
Bullied in Santa Fe
Dear Bullied,
Your girlfriend needs to either
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Seriously commit to drinking less;
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Stop drinking completely; or
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Seek professional help about her drinking and/or anger issues.
You need to either
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Accept her drunken behavior and be wary when she drinks (not advisable);
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Persuade her to seek professional help about her drinking and/or anger issues; or
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Get a new girlfriend without these problems
If she’s blacking out and can’t remember being mean, she really is drinking too much. Being nice to you when she’s sober is sufficient if she agrees to stay sober. I don’t know about the notion of “controlled-drinking” under these circumstances. It may work out for you all, but, in reality, the issues that make her mean are still present and will remain present until she deals with them effectively.
