Anatomy of The Vibe
To remind you, The Vibe is a strong, steady, intense, total carnal attraction to another woman. It is physical magnetism. It is NOT an emotion; it is not the result of analysis. It is not desire. For The Vibe to occur, BOTH parties must be Vibing. Vibing is a mutual dynamic.
For those who may not be accustomed to The Vibe — either because of lack of experience, shyness, or lack of self-confidence — the straight woman in question IS PROBABLY NOT Vibing you if she:
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Wants to do something with you in a group setting only
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Writes you endless e-mails about her ex-boyfriend
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Tells you that she has a friend who’s a lesbian
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Just stares at you
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Only talks to you when she’s drunk
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Only wants to chat about gay, political, or social issues
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Talks to you in a normal speaking voice all the time
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Is often distracted when you’re around
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Uses you as her personal psychologist
She may be lusting after you, but it’s a temporary situation that she’ll probably not act upon — OR, she’s a closeted lesbian who may or may not be interested in you.
The straight woman in question PROBABLY IS Vibing you if she:
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Initiates physical contact often (light hand-touching, gentle arm-rubbing is a giveaway)
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Lowers her speaking voice, leaning toward you when she’s talking
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Is afraid to look into your eyes but can’t help it — and then she’s not able to break the gaze
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Continually asks you the same question(s) (your presence is frying her brain)
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Has a difficult time leaving you when it’s time to go
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Gives you at least 95% of her attention when you’re around, maybe more
Of course, YOU’RE Vibing too, so you may not notice any of this. Then again, if you are Vibing, you are probably not even reading this blog because you can’t get your mind off of her.
