Falling Out of Love
Dear Dyke Whisperer, Why do women fall out of love?
Sally in Dublin
Dear Sally,
Sometimes, especially among the young, infatuation is mistaken for love, and infatuation fades. Other times, we want so desperately to be in love and to feel that high that what we think is love really isn’t.
Personality, circumstances, context, and personal evolution all affect our emotional state. In time, we might begin to see women as they really are and not as we would like to see them. Conversely, we might be perceived differently over time. Perceptions shift as reality sets in and novelty wears off and life happens.
Abuse (physical or emotional), neglect, addiction, infidelity all can alter feelings drastically and quickly in a relationship.
Culturally, we are surrounded by, and bombarded with, popular and romantic notions regarding the discovery of life-long, earth-shattering love affairs — about finding “the one.” Movies make this process seem so silly, easy, natural, and inevitable when, in fact, it is difficult to find a woman with whom you can maintain a life-long romance, much less a relationship.
