The Dyke Whisperer

In a relationship between an older and a younger lesbian, the older individual is really at more risk. From the older individual’s perspective, it is intoxicating be in the vertical and horizontal presence of an enticing, energetic younger woman. Intoxicated women, though, tend to make poor decisions.

Often, there is an element of the mentor-protege interaction in these relationships: the older woman is financially secure, experienced, knowledgeable, and eager to please in exchange for the unquestioning, consistent adoration and acquiescence of the younger woman.

Take caution, however: if an older girlfriend/partner effectively nurtures her younger lover, the younger woman will eventually no longer need her. This relationship cannot survive if it is based on dependence, rather than love and respect. If you do not respect the younger woman’s decision-making abilities, she will resent you when she begins to mature. If you require unquestioning obedience, you would be better served with a well-trained dog. You cannot expect an imbalanced relationship to remain out of balance and to be stable in the long run. Nature forbids it.

That being stated, very few woman under the age of 25 know what they want out of life or themselves. They may have themselves convinced that they do, but they don’t. They are still growing, learning, and developing, which is beautiful to observe as a friend but may be difficult to adjust to in a relationship.

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