Jealous Girlfriend
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My girlfriend is EXTREMELY jealous. At first, I thought it was cute. Now, it seems to have gotten worse. Last night, she wanted to beat up a waitress because she “looked at me.” Any advice?
Worried in Chelsea
Dear Worried,
Being with a jealous woman seems flattering at first. Then, it’s like living in a prison, as you are now finding out. Jealousy and possessiveness are not traits indicative of a healthy psyche. They are also intuitively linked to domestic violence.
I suggest you find a girlfriend who is more sane. First, though, you must end the relationship with this jealous woman. This can be a hazardous process, and she might turn stalky or worse. Whatever you tell her, she will probably assume you’re seeing someone else.
The most effective — and safest — strategy to use when ending a relationship with a woman who is extremely jealous is to either become obsessed with a hobby or pretend you’ve become obsessed with a hobby that she has no interest in. Tell her that this hobby is all you care about now. Talk about this hobby all the time, rent DVDs involving the hobby, etc. She won’t be able to “compete” — and jealousy is all about insecurity and competitiveness — and she should leave you alone, after telling all your mutual friends that you’ve gone crazy.
