“I Love You”
Dear Dyke Whisperer, This past Valentine’s Day, after a romantic evening, I told the woman who I have been dating for 5 months that I love her. She smiled and hugged me, but I didn’t receive an “I love you” back. I have felt stupid and embarrassed around her since then. What do I do?
Sad in St. Paul
Dear St. Paul,
You have expressed your feelings. There’s no reason to feel bad about that; however, realize that five months is still a relatively short time in which to date someone. Your girlfriend may not be ready to say “I love you,” and, honestly, she may not love you.
If she’s not avoiding you, you know she at least likes you. Maybe she’s the type that savors the romance, and she’s waiting for a special time or feeling to overtake her. I believe it’s better for you that she not return the “I love you” rather than say it out of a feeling of obligation and not mean it.
You have told her that you love her. Now demonstrate it every time she’s around you. Abandon your wounded pride and concentrate on the woman who has evoked such strong emotions in you.
