Lost Best Friend
Dear Dyke Whisperer, Three years ago, my best friend of 8 years and I had a falling out over a girl. We both liked the same girl and pursued her. She played us both. We haven’t spoken since then. I miss her tremendously. I don’t know if she still hates me. What should I do?
Karrie in Birmingham
Dear Karrie,
You need to contact her. I suggest an e-mail message. E-mail allows a person to read and re-read a message. I believe it gives you the greatest chance at reconciliation. Use St. Patrick’s Day as an excuse if you need one:
Dear Best Buddy,
On St. Patty’s Day, I always remember the time [best friends almost always have great St. Patty's Day stories]. It still makes me smile to remember that day.
I think of you often and the good times we had together. Looking back, I realize that my priorities were lacking, and I behaved like an idiot. Truth is, you were a big part of my life, and I hope that we can be friends again. I’d love to be able to hear what you’ve been up to and to tell you about my life.
Then, leave your contact information. I hope your friend responds, but, of course, there’s always the chance she won’t. If she doesn’t, send her a short e-mail message on holidays and her birthday for a year. If she still doesn’t respond — and you have the correct and current contact information — then I think your relationship may be over.
