First Date, First Kiss
Dear Dyke Whisperer, Quick! I need some advice. I finally have a date with a woman I’m crazy about! What should my general strategy be?
Excited Erica
Dear Erica,
I believe that the strategic intent of the first date should be the first kiss (if you still want to kiss her at the date’s conclusion). To desire anything more is too aggressive; to desire anything less is not aggressive enough.
Plan so that you will walk with her at the end of your evening to either her front door, her car, etc. Try to decrease the space between you both as you chat. Keep the conversation light. Ask if she’d like to go out again [This requires forethought on your part: you should have already planned a second date.] Describe what you have in mind for your next meeting. I’ll assume she says “yes.”
Move in a little closer to her. Thank her profusely for the evening. Lightly grab her left hand with your right (opposite if you’re left-handed) and hold it for a few moments — this is a critical step. If she treats this gesture as a handshake, accept it, and let her hand go. If she maintains contact for a few moments, again mention that you’ve had a great evening with her.
Say “goodnight” and draw her in for a kiss on the cheek. Now, you have to let her take over. Zone in on her reaction, i.e., if she seeks a more intimate kiss, go with it. I suggest you stop at this point though. Say “goodnight” again and leave her in eager anticipation of the second date!
