Girlfriend’s Best Friend
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months. Her best friend (since college) hates me and is trying to sabotage our relationship. The best friend has told me to my face that she doesn’t think I’m good enough to date her friend. I don’t want a nasty conflict. What should I do?
Jules in Philly
Tell your girlfriend that you want to clear the air with her best friend. As the three of you sit down together, assume an air of sweetness and compassion — and maintain this for the duration of the interaction. If the best friend goes nuts, she’ll look unstable and needy. If the best friend pretends she never criticized you, she’ll lose credibility if she ever criticizes you to the girlfriend in the future.
Basically, you’re disarming the “best friend” with kindness. Your girlfriend will admire your show of resolve, strength, and willingness to accommodate her friend.
