Getting Out on the Town
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My wife and I have been married over a year. We used to be very social, but now we don’t go out much. She’s happy with that. On the other hand, I would like MORE of a social life. How can I convince her to go out more?
Nancy in Dallas
Dear Nancy,
Have you asked her why she doesn’t want to go out? Maybe she’s tired of witnessing social drama among your friends and acquaintances. Maybe she views going out as an unjustifiable financial strain. Maybe she gets jealous, or maybe you get jealous.
Step One: Ask her why and listen carefully.
Step Two: If she gives you a specific reason, it’s up to you to assure her that “it” won’t be a problem. Then, of course, you must follow through. Don’t let “it” be a problem.
Step Three: Ask her on a date and show her the time of her life. Make sure everything is perfect. Yes, married folks can STILL ask each other out on dates. Maybe you could have a set date-night, although I personally enjoy the spontaneity aspect.
Step Four: Follow-up. Ask her if she had a good time. Probe without being psychotic. Identify her social likes and dislikes (yes, they may have changed since you got married).
Step Five: Have fun at home too! Don’t communicate the message that you can only have fun outside of your home.
