Lesbian Tension
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My two friends, Jill and Kathy, have become fascinated with an EXTREMELY popular Chieftain who holds court at a local bar that we have started going to. The Chieftain has been showering my friends with attention. This Chieftain and I do NOT get along. When we were both playing city-league softball three years ago, we got into several shouting matches, and she threatened to kick my ass on more than one occasion.
I’m convinced that the Chieftain is only interested in my friends because they’re MY friends. The whole situation is becoming more tense. I don’t want my friends hurt. What should I do? I am in need of some post-modern lesbian advice.
Tense in Texas
Dear Tense,
There is no benefit to you in associating with this group and going to this bar. Your friends seem to be taken with the Chieftain. It happens. Social position and influence sometime supersede intelligence, emotional stability, and kindness in the lesbian world — just as it does in the hetero world. Don’t fall into the common lesbian trap of trying “to save” your friends. If they are allowed in bars, they are adults. Let them choose their own friends and lovers.
Your best bet is to distance yourself from these ladies. This will make them less desirable to the Chieftain, save you the indignity of participating in such an aggravating dynamic, and free up time so that you might pursue women to seduce / date.
You know that this influential Chieftain will do everything in her power to prevent you from having a friend or dating anyone in her group. I know you know this.
I don’t recommend the “big scene” (usually drunken) that so many lesbians indulge in when confronted with a bully Chieftain who does not like them. Just be civil and look for another group or a a sub-group that you enjoy. You can always be civil.
Spring is rapidly approaching, and there’s no time for lesbian drama unless it occurs after a session of hot sex.
