Mystery Girlfriend?
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I think I’m in love with a girl I’ve met recently. We are both students and in our early 20′s. The night we met, she mentioned that she had a girlfriend “at home.” She hasn’t mentioned this “girlfriend” since (in over two weeks) and certainly acts like she is unattached. I REALLY want to be with this girl. What should I do?
Anxious in Atlanta
Dear Anxious,
Enjoy your time with her. You both are young and passionate. Not knowing her intentions is likely driving you crazy, and it feels great. This mystery of not knowing, of longing and desire, innuendo …. The time spent analyzing glances, phrases, song lyrics, gestures …. All of this is perfectly normal and tremendously frustrating, as is the way your soul likely stirs when you consider the possibilities.
“Manage your expectations” is rational advice: Don’t expect too much from a woman who is involved with another woman. It makes sense. It sounds like you’re way beyond rational at this point though.
My official advice: openly communicate without spoiling the magical connection. Try to keep tabs on the status of your friend’s “official” relationship.
Spring will start sooner than you think. Clear up this issue regarding the “girlfriend,” take your glorious energy of youth, and enjoy yourself either with the woman you mention (once she is free and clear) or with another one.
