Tactics
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I appreciate your help, but I need specifics! I’m a 28-year-old grad student in Madison. I think I’m getting a vibe from a fellow student. WHAT DO I DO?
Viv Getting Vibed
Dear Viv,
This is what I did in my younger, wilder days. Yes, I know it’s manipulative. I’m not proud of this, but it did work very well. Okay, I’m a little proud:
I would invite a “straight” (or at least not openly gay) woman to a non-threatening location, like a coffee shop. We would meet, usually during the week at about 6:00 pm or so. I was a student then so there was always a reasonable excuse to meet at a coffee shop.
After getting comfortable and doing my best to be charming and witty for a couple of hours, I would suddenly check the time, effect a look of panic, and say, “I really need to go.” Uninterested parties would simply say, “Okay” and get up to leave. The interested ones would be disappointed. When asked why I had to go, I ALWAYS replied: “I’ve got things to do.” That’s all I would say. The more interested they are, the more they’ll quiz you as to your mysterious plans. Drove them girls wild, I tell ya.
